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Excerpted from Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping. Copyright 1997 by Colin Tipping. Excerpted by permission of Global Thirteen Publishing.  All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher. HTML and web pages copyright by SpiritSite.com.

"She never had hidden her feelings well, and it was apparent to me that she was in emotional pain."

Colin Tipping
Radical Forgiveness
, Part 1

As soon as I saw my sister, Jill, emerge into the lobby of Atlanta's Hartsfield International Airport, I knew something was wrong. She never had hidden her feelings well, and it was apparent to me that she was in emotional pain.

Jill had flown from England to the United States with my brother, John, whom I had not seen for 16 years. He emigrated to Australia in 1972 from England. I emigrated to America in 1984, thus Jill was, and still is, the only sibling still living in England. John had finally made a trip home to England, and this trip to Atlanta to visit me represented the last leg of his journey. Jill accompanied him to Atlanta so she could visit me and my wife, JoAnna, for a couple of weeks and see John off to Australia once again.

After the initial hugging and kissing and a certain amount of awkwardness, we set out for the hotel. I had arranged rooms for one night so Jo Anna and I could show John and Jill the city of Atlanta the following day before driving north to my home.

When the first opportunity for serious discussion presented itself, Jill said, "Colin, things are not good at home. Jeff and I might be splitting up."

Despite the fact that I had noticed something was wrong with my sister, this announcement surprised me. I had always thought she and her husband, Jeff, were happy in their six-year-old marriage. Both Jeff and Jill had been married before, but this relationship had always seemed a strong one. Jeff had three kids with his previous wife while Jill had four. Her youngest son, Paul was the only one still living at home.

"What's going on?" I asked.

"Well, it's all quite bizarre, and I don't quite know where to begin," she replied. "Jeff is acting really strange, and I can't stand much more of it. We've gotten to the point where we can't talk to each other any more, and it's killing me. He has totally turned away from me and says it's all my fault."

"Tell me about it," I said, glancing at John, who responded by rolling his eyes. He'd stayed at their house for a week prior to flying to Atlanta, and I guessed by his demeanor that he'd heard enough of this subject to last him quite a while.

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