"We may have some resistance to this. Part of our mind wants to say, 'I’m not choosing to see things this way; they just are this way.'"

Step 1. The first step in this process is to choose a person in your life who troubles you. It could be someone who seems quite irritating, or someone who seems just mildly annoying.

Step 2. Next, describe why this person troubles you, using as much detail as possible. You’re encouraged not to "censor" your current perspective. This step calls for a great deal of honesty.

Step 3. Even though these things may seem to be "facts" (and on the worldly level, some of them may be), let’s reframe them in terms of our thoughts. Let’s restate step two in the form of, "I’m choosing to see _____ (person) as _____ (quality)."

We may have some resistance to this. Part of our mind wants to say, "I’m not choosing to see things this way; they just are this way." Although things may indeed be this way on a behavioral level, the Course wants us to take responsibility for our thoughts about them.

Again, our job in this step is to rewrite each sentence from step two in the form, "I’m choosing to see _____ as _____." This is a powerful step because it involves taking full responsibility for our thoughts. By doing this, we’re identifying the contents of the cubbyhole.

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