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Excerpted from The Other Side and Back by Sylvia Browne. Copyright 2000 by Sylvia Browne. Excerpted by permission of Penguin Putnam, Inc.  All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher. HTML and web pages copyright by SpiritSite.com.

"Never put yourself down, even jokingly."

  Sylvia Browne, The Other Side and Back, Part 5

Starting with you. Never put yourself down, even jokingly. Declare it strictly forbidden. No more "I'm stupid." No more "I'm fat." No more "I'm clumsy," or "I'm ugly," or "I'm too short," or "I'm too tall," or any form of "I can't." You are replacing those a hundred times a day with, "I'm very smart about many things," and "I have the power to have any body I want," and "I'm graceful," and "I'm attractive," and most especially - "I can!"

As for the people around you, if they put you down or undermine loving yourself in any way, they are off-limits too, unless they learn to shape up. Insulting words and insulting behavior are unacceptable, it is that simple, and staying around anyone who does not make you feel good about yourself does more psychic damage than you might realize. Do not forget, we are all here to learn to overcome negativity - not to accept it, embrace it, invite it into our homes and cook dinner for it.

Remember that harsh "stop!" I yell at myself when I start to fall into the guilt trap? That is the "stop!" I want you to yell silently every time someone insults you. And whatever you do, do not stand there defending yourself, arguing about the insult. There is no sillier argument than yelling back and forth with someone about whether or not you are stupid or fat or ugly. You are none of those things, so why on earth would you let yourself get pulled into an argument about something you are not? 

Take this example. If someone marched up and said, "You're a giraffe!" would you spend one second trying to convince them you are not? No, you'd reply, "That's ridiculous," and walk away. (And then, I hope, you would give some serious thought to why you would want to hang around with someone who thinks you are a giraffe.) So in addition to the silent "stop!" you are going to yell at every insult, I want you to add, "That's ridiculous," either silently or out loud, and walk away.

Most of all, for every insult anyone aims at you, by their words or by their actions, make it a habit to instantly neutralize it with an affirmation, over and over again, until you believe your affirmation more surely than you could ever believe anything negative about yourself. Try replacing insults and negativity with affirmations for three short months and I promise, you will be amazed at the magic and miracles you will create. 

There is a logical but often overlooked reason why affirmations work: They are direct communication with the soul mind, and the soul mind, with its eternal knowledge and wisdom, always recognizes and resonates with the truth. How do we know that affirmations are the truth? Because no matter what details we include and what exact words we use, affirmations are positive acknowledgments of our sacred value as God's children. They are vital nourishment for the soul mind, and an immediate, magical, and miraculous way to smile at the God inside us and feel Him smile back.

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